"Sometimes you need to press pause to let everything sink in.”
~ Sebastian Vettel ~
There is no denying that for pretty much everyone on earth, life has been turned upside down since January 2020. We’re only halfway through the year, but in just seven months, our way of thinking has drastically shifted. One major change is that face-to-face time with people outside immediate families and roommates has been greatly limited. Meetings are usually confined to a computer screen, and although we are blessed that we have the technology that we do to connect with each other, it is different, and sometimes it feels like a profound loss to have to interact screen-to-screen instead of face to face.
In all of these changes and even deep grief at things being different and lost, it is important to remember that in spite of the sadness and the void of certain things like hugs and movie theaters and fancy vacations, there...
“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under trees on a summer's day, listening to the murmur of the water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.”
~John Lubbock, The Use Of Life~
Most of us have “those days”, the ones where we don’t know what to do with ourselves. Our home is in chaos and clutter around us or our work tasks are piling up and we feel overwhelmed or even paralyzed. In that moment, we often don’t have any motivation to make progress so that things can feel better. Instead we go and do something mindless or a chore that feels less scary than tackling the job. By the time we emerge from our numbing, we can feel pretty guilty about the avoidance and it can affect us a lot emotionally, as well as mentally. Sometimes I have even called myself names, the main one being “lazy”. After all, what...
“Everything I have ever let go of has claw marks on it. Everything.”
~ David Foster Wallace ~
I resonate with this sentiment of this quote. It is hard and often painful to let go. As people, we tend to hold onto things. However, claw marks would indicate that someone is yanking something away from you. It isn’t really like that, is it? We have free will. We choose whether to hold on to things or to let them go. We each have the power to lay something down at the foot of the cross and walk away. That doesn’t mean it’s easy, but it is our choice.
I didn’t always think about things that way. Sometimes wisdom comes from the most unexpected of places. About five years ago, I was at my friend Robin’s house at a barbecue. She had been trying to quit smoking for a while and the habit kept drawing her back in. She and our pastor were having a conversation and I caught...
”Rest when you’re weary. Refresh and renew yourself, your body, your mind, your spirit. Then get back to work.”
Let’s play a word association game. I say a word, and you notice the first word or words that come to mind.
You might have thought, bed, sleep, nap, or something in that family. These all have something to do with letting your body take a break or lying down. In a way, that’s what I want to share about today, but the focus is giving your mind and emotions a break, not just your body. As entrepreneurs, we tend to push ourselves pretty hard. We often work long or strange hours, and things may be a little more disorganized or messy as a result. I know for myself, I work and play and rest very differently when things are tidy than when they are messy. I am able to be at rest better when things are in their places and there...
“There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his.”
~Hebrews 4:9-10 (NIV)~
In stressful times where everything has turned upside down and we are struggling to find our bearings, it is important to be compassionate—not just to each other but to ourselves. Some of us may be working at the pace or quality that we were before, and some of us may be struggling. It can be hard to know what to do with that shift and change. Brené Brown, one of my favorite thinkers and writers, said something intriguing that I think could change everything, if we let it. The idea is that if you believe that people are doing the best that they can at any given time, you will have a much more positive outlook than those who believe that people are not doing the best that they can. So let me ask you this: whether you are doing great...